While I'm not transgender, I've dealt with abusive partners and dysfunctional relationships. I know how that can really fuck with your emotional stability and your trust for others.
Honestly you need to get to a point where you can appreciate and tolerate yourself before you can actually get into a functional relationship.
This is even more important for transgender individuals as they are more susceptible to issues regarding their self-worth, self-esteem and general happiness.
You need to get to a place where you can accept yourself, and it will most likely take awhile, as it is entirely dependent on you. If you get into a relationship loathing yourself, you leave yourself totally vulnerable to more heartache.
My ex was male-to-female.
Often times they were extremely forlorn, and utterly inconsolable. A lot of pain comes with being transgender, but eventually if you push through it you will find happiness and acceptance. It takes a long time, but pushing yourself into a relationship when you aren't emotionally ready is the last thing you should be doing.
While I'm positive you are a wonderful guy with a lot to offer. Sometimes it's best to not be in a relationship until your totally ready.
7.8 Billion people in the world, you will find people who will love and support the real you, for you. You will indefinitely find someone who will accept you, both your qualities and flaws and take them both in stride.
But I can't stress enough that you gotta get to a place where you actually like yourself. Ignore the people who can't accept you, their actions towards you assure that they are a strictly temporary nuisance in the big scheme of things.
To the people that matter, you are a guy.
You know yourself that you are a guy.
Someone calls you a chick? ignore it. Someone calls you a dyke? own it.
All the people that matter, support you wholeheartedly. They want the best for you, you gotta take into account whats best for yourself.
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