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Victum blaming, aka That time a guy tried to socialite sex from me

Stevie Wilson

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hey look at that I did a comic about a guy propositioning me and then it turned into a comic about victim blaming and rape culture. Also it ended up being long, so yeah guys enjoy some over sharing

#victim_blaming #trigger_warning #rape_culture

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emmareinmuth

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I've had this on my mind for the past few weeks because of continuing attention from creeps. I was heading 'TO' a girl's night at a restaurant and a guy asked me for change, I said "no cash on me sorry, all on my card tonight :)" "Oh okay..." he says. "..Want me to sleep with you?" "... Nah mate, I'm 'right" "... Alright, have a good night". Yeah. Since then I've had honks, catcalls, I complimented a guys art online who began sending me PM asking where I lived etc. More often I get 2 extremes: polite beginings then sudden turn where I know I should or want to tell them to go fuck themselves but I've passed that point and was caught of guard, and then the fast screaming from windows, down from ledges, gestured from outside my bus as -I- move by so there's nothing I can do about it anyway. I get so mad because I am made to feel like whenever I go out it's to service these men. I can't look presentable for a celebration dinner, I can't go into town during the day to shop or see a movie. I start dressing like an absolute slob but In my experience shopping in town you get shit service unless you look nice. So what do I do I have to ask myself. I'm not the type to mope and feel sorry for myself and get scared of going out I get -MAD-. The same way I've learned to deal with difficult customers and shoplifters I'll learn to handle these creeps. The first few dozen times are nerve-wrecking but soon reflexes should become better at shutting down these pigs. All the while, I do have the underlying thought - what if it becomes more than a proposition. I was in a deserted alley when this guy propositioned me. I was so relieved he kept walking. Then when I told my friends about it you know what I was told? That I looked stunning. That it was no surprise. That they'd sleep with me too. The fact that they thought his behaviour is a normal thing...That's scary.

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